Why Are You Not The Success You Want To Be?
This is one which I found to be interesting, thought will share with everybody.
Author: Zach Kong
You have been trying, trying and trying. However you just can’t seem to achieve the success you desire? Can you ever be the success you desire?
Just sometime ago,my mentor asked me the exact same question, “Why are you not the success you want to be? ”Well, you can imagine the look on my face. The question just caught me off guard while I was having lunch with him.
“Well, I think it’s because I am not focus enough and not taking the correct actions?”, I answered in guilt. “No, no. From what I can see, you’re laser focused and is taking massive actions. So why are you still not obtaining the success you desire to have?”
At that time I was confused. Totally confused. So what was my mentor driving at? After pondering over the question for some time, I slowly shook my head to signal to him my ignorance and embrace myself for a valuable lesson.
During our lunch time, he went into a lengthy explanation that we are in fact the successes that we want to be. Just that, we often put our foresight too far in front of us that we fail to see what’s just in front of us. “Now is the accepted time, not tomorrow, not some more convenient season.
It is today that our best work can be done and not some future day or future year. It is today that we fit ourselves for the greater usefulness of tomorrow. Today is the seed time, now are the hours of work, and tomorrow comes the harvest and the playtime.”
~~ W.E.B. Du Bois ~~
We’re in fact successes in accordance to our values. Like any other people, including successful entrepreneurs, we all have within us a value system. And within the value system, we have a hierarchy of values. What we place highest in our value system, we’ll work towards them and attain success in them.
Think about it. What do you really value in life? Friendship? Career? Family? Richness? Health?
Those are the things that we value strongly and it is through them that we get our inspiration, support and motivation to work towards them, obtaining successes in them.
So when my mentor asked me the question, he was in fact trying to tell me that I am in fact already the success I want to be. It’s just that I have been neglecting them and taking them for granted.In additional, he actually asked me to list down all the successes I have achieved in my life till now.
To be frank, that was not an easy task. It took me quite some time to come up with only 1-2 successes I think I have achieved so far.
Noticing my struggle, my mentor slowly began to lead me in the correct direction to uncover my “buried” successes and after some time, I was able to come up with more than 20 achievements I have made in my life.
I have never realized I am that successful in my life!
“Life is a succession of moments. To live each one is to succeed.”
~~ Corita Kent ~~
Not many achievements you may say, however, like what my mentor mentioned, these are just a portion of the successes I have achieved. I have yet to uncover all of them.
He personally believed that everyone must have made hundreds or even thousands of break-through achievements in their lives. They just have to uncover them like what I did. They need not be big to be considered a break-through achievement. It can be something small yet powerful to change your belief system.
So why is there a need to uncover of our previous successes? How can it help us in our quest for our desire success?
Well, the reason is pretty simple. It is through our previous successes that we build and achieved even greater achievements and successes. In addition, by recognizing our previous achievements, no matter how small they are, we actually start to recognize that we’re in fact making tremendous improvements in our lives. Slowly, bit by bit.
We’ll also gradually learn to become grateful for the things that happen to us and not take things for granted.
“As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.”
~~ John F. Kennedy ~~
Do you know of anyone who achieves something but loses another? For example, do you know of any successful entrepreneur who sacrifices their relationships in return for
success in their business.That actually happens because they fail to give gratitude for their previous success in relationships. They fail to realize that all those previous successes require hard work to build and achieve. Furthermore, those successes also require additional effort to maintain.
Are you currently maintaining your present successes? Or are you neglecting them for other successes?
During my lunch with my mentor, I come to realize that we all have successes in our live and we’re in fact already living that successes we always wanted in accordance to the hierarchy of values.
Also, it takes tremendous amount of time, energy and effort to achieve those successes. Therefore it truly doesn’t make any sense to give up those successes for another success.
Success in one area does not make up for failures in other areas. Learn to truly appreciate the successes in you’ve achieved so far and make use of the knowledge you gained to help you further your quest to achieve other successes in other areas of your life.
Start by recognizing, be grateful and be happy about all those previous successes you have achieved in your life till now.
Are you prepared to list down your life achievements till now?“The hardest arithmetic to master is that which enables us to count our blessings.”
~~ Eric Hoffer ~~
Thursday, August 9th, 2007